Category: Attachment Styles, Relationships
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On ‘Thoughts of an Ordinary Woman’
I can’t bear to watch the news. Every second piece is about rape, abuse, or murder of females: infants, toddlers, pre-teen, teen, young woman, middle aged woman, old woman, paralysed woman, mentally challenged woman, sick unconscious woman, drunk woman, maimed woman, destitute woman, starving woman, dying woman. Sister, daughter, wife, relative, tourist, friend. Anything with…
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On ‘What Goes On In My Head When You Push My Buttons…’
On some days, my supply of cuss words is inadequate to meet demand. I am tempted to productively use my time researching appropriate ones that fit my current situation. And feel so overwhelmed that ‘wtf’ becomes my highest and most evolved expression of feelings, flashing in my mind with each breath, which is incidentally around…
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On Human Divinity
When I hear or read about the notion that we attain divinity like Yudhishthir of Mahabharat when we follow certain rules and laws of social conduct and spiritual evolution based on worship and dharma as taught in the social context, I am at a loss. The idea that The Divine has set out laws to keep…
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On Staying Sane
It’s amazing the demands that life makes on you. And the toll it takes. The things we do, or don’t do, have a cumulative effect on our well-being. There are so many roles to play out; so many things to balance; so many things to stay on top of. Nearly a fortnight ago, and not…
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On Finding and Being Found: The Little Lost Toy
The little lost toy was a tiny person. It struggled to get up on the bench and finally made it. Ah! The view was much better: he could see way more in all directions. There was a gurgling fountain to the right and a big moss covered rock to the left. It had just rained…
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On Power Equations in Love and Friendships
‘The person with power in a relationship is the one who wants it less.’ That comment set me thinking. Applied to my experiences, it is a truth that holds good for both, love and friendships where the latter are between people of the opposite sex. Of course, I was aware of it deep down, but…
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On Conditions and Expectations in Loving
As kids, we were taught these tenets within our cultural framework: Love unconditionally. Have no expectations from those you love. For a very long time, I thought that these two things are invariably supposed to go hand in hand. I wove these together and considered them inseparable with regard to personal relationships. And for the…
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On Being Real
Thoughts are like water: calm or chaotic, superfluous or deep, disturbing or serene, positive or depressing. Whatever their nature, they are unceasing; ever flowing. It is said that you become what you think and so you should think positive, cut out depressing thoughts, suggest to your mind to always be on a high, think of…
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On Mother’s Day
A message I wrote to my mom on Mother’s Day one time reads: ‘A life lived with dignity and self-reliance; the pleasure of being of service, of giving, of caring; holding the head high and meeting challenges head-on; working to the best of my ability; finding the way around problems; maintaining integrity; speaking out boldly;…
The Right to be Wrong 