Category: Self-discovery
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4 Letter Words for Diwali!
I am on top of the mountain. Fairy lights are winking at me in the valley below. I imagine gentle laughter and the sound of tiny tinkling bells drifting up from them. Here I am surrounded by angels, I think! Or maybe my inner voice speaks. There are messages for me. And maybe for you. Listen.…
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5 Lessons to Learn From Losing a Loved One
People say that the death of a loved one is the greatest loss that can be experienced. I think losing the living is much harder. Here are some things I have learned from the losses over the years; mine as well as those of others who have trusted me enough to have shared theirs with…
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On ‘Making Criticism Work’
Criticism comes irrespective of whether you think it is due, deserved or unwarranted. Just by the mere act of being, we invite criticism into our professional and personal spaces. The immediate reaction to it depends a lot on how it is delivered. The accusatory brand derogates, harms, undermines and works to destroy our sense of…
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On ‘A Romantic’s Perspective on Love’
I was recently in a discussion on loving with two distinct sides where one – the romantics – were laughed at and the other – the rationalists – were convinced that they are superior with their arguments based on reason and logic. I backed off after a few minutes as it was entertaining to simply…
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On Saying ‘Thank You! I Love You.’
I found the man I would marry when I had just turned nineteen. And I did not have to seek him out, nor snatch him out of someone else’s embrace, or worry about him belonging with someone else whose territory I was poaching. I did not have to compete to win him over. Neither did…
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On ‘Waiting’
Things are as they are: Our reality is unique to each one of us as individuals. We are each an island; isolated and independent, complete and proud of our individualism. Yet, we desire to fall in step with a few others in our life’s journey, just to make it a pleasant shared experience. And so…
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On ‘A Question of Gender Identity’
There is a very interesting discussion on one of the closed groups that I am member of. A parent has requested the school of their kindergartener to allow him to crossdress in school as the child likes to wear girly clothes and things. There were plenty of comments and opinions on the topic, ranging from…
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On ‘Thoughts of a Woozy Wandering Mind’
I have spent four days laid up in bed alternating between being completely knocked out with sleep medication and a floating, dreamy wakefulness where I am not quite sure that I am awake. My muscles are so relaxed that I am not able to squeeze a lemon into my lemon tea. While my brain is…
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On ‘Thoughts of an Ordinary Woman’
I can’t bear to watch the news. Every second piece is about rape, abuse, or murder of females: infants, toddlers, pre-teen, teen, young woman, middle aged woman, old woman, paralysed woman, mentally challenged woman, sick unconscious woman, drunk woman, maimed woman, destitute woman, starving woman, dying woman. Sister, daughter, wife, relative, tourist, friend. Anything with…
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On ‘What Goes On In My Head When You Push My Buttons…’
On some days, my supply of cuss words is inadequate to meet demand. I am tempted to productively use my time researching appropriate ones that fit my current situation. And feel so overwhelmed that ‘wtf’ becomes my highest and most evolved expression of feelings, flashing in my mind with each breath, which is incidentally around…
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On Human Divinity
When I hear or read about the notion that we attain divinity like Yudhishthir of Mahabharat when we follow certain rules and laws of social conduct and spiritual evolution based on worship and dharma as taught in the social context, I am at a loss. The idea that The Divine has set out laws to keep…
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On Staying Sane
It’s amazing the demands that life makes on you. And the toll it takes. The things we do, or don’t do, have a cumulative effect on our well-being. There are so many roles to play out; so many things to balance; so many things to stay on top of. Nearly a fortnight ago, and not…
The Right to be Wrong 